So, you’re thinking you know you want to have an elopement instead of the traditional large wedding day but don’t fully understand what it is? Well, I am going to break down your lingering question: “what is eloping?”, and see if it’s a good fit for you and your partner!
Eloping used to be running away and getting married. Wether that be in Vegas or at the courthouse. I mean the dictionary definition is literally to run away and get married without the parents consent. But in todays modern world, we are re-defining what eloping means. An elopement in my terms means to have an intentional wedding day that is truly about the couple, wherever in the world you wish to get married.
An elopement is based on what the couple getting married wants, not what everyone else wants. Sometimes in the big wedding world couples can get so wrapped up in the planning the WEDDING and not actually focusing on what the MARRIAGE will be like. Sometimes couples can get carried away with all the pretty details and making sure everything is perfect. But not actually focus on each other, which is what really matters at the end of it all. Couples who decide to have an elopement, value experiences over things. Which is why a lot of modern day eloping couples go to a bucket list destination to commit their lives to one another.
Ok, so now you understand what eloping is, but what does it actually look like? Eloping today, you can choose to have some close family there. Take my elopement for example. The only guests me and my fiancé are having is my parents, his mom, and his brother and wife, and that’s it! But we’re still eloping. We’re not having a wedding, no reception. We’re creating an experience that we will always remember as the best day of our lives. For us, that’s what matters the most – not the big sheered and production of a 100+ wedding day.
When eloping in the modern world, you can choose to tell people or not. It’s hard to tell certain people in your life that you are deciding to elope and that they are not invited. So, that’s why sometimes keeping it a secret is best. In my situation, we aren’t keeping it a secret, because if those people in our lives who aren’t invited can’t support and understand our decision and how we want to get married, then they probably don’t have our best interest at heart anyways. Do what is best for you and focus on what makes the two of you happy!
Everyone thinks eloping is boring and has to be in a courthouse. But eloping can look so different for everyone! It can be standing on top of a mountain saying vows to each other, or running through a field after just saying “I do”. Maybe it’s getting married in a state that allows self solemnization such as Colorado, so you don’t have to have another person marry you and your partner. The possibilities are truly endless and we can do whatever sets your souls on fire.
I would love to be a part of your elopement! And, break all the rules of a traditional wedding day together!!! So, you can look back and remember the important moments with you and your partner! Feel like we would be a good fit? Fill out my contact form and we can start planning your epic elopement next!